Trying to get redditors from r/NCD over here. I will say it has taken me an hour to understand somewhat how to create an account and get into a community that I wanted into. I still do not understand 90% of what lemmy is
It's so confusing because web2 is evolving into web3 and we are the pioneers. If you're on one you're basically on all of the fediverse, mastodon/pixelated/kbin/Lemmy/peertube and makertube is even newer. Just remember don't click stupid links and do ask stupid questions, someone else probably needs to know too.
There are several levels to this. First, the actual software. In the Fediverse (simply the agglomeration of software that can interact through a common protocol called Activitypub) there are several solutions that offer a Reddit like experience. Kbin and Lemmy are the ones we focus on for now. Its different software with similar goals that can interact with each other.
Now, the second level is the actual server (also called instance). There is no central Kbin or Lemmy server (although the instances that are run by the developers tend to basically become that). Instead there are a lot of servers (e.g beehaw, feddit.de, lemmy.world) that run either Lemmy or Kbin. These servers can interact with each other, because their software can, this is called federation.
This brings us to the third level, the users, you and me. I have an account on Kbin.social, because thats where i went to sign up. Kbin.social runs Kbin, so I use Kbin. Same for you. Bread2390 has a sh.itjust.works account, which runs Lemmy, as far as i know. So they are on a different server (instance) with a different software (lemmy) but we can interact just fine because of federation.
Now, all of this sounds complicated and kinda is, but in your interaction you didnt even notice that they are on a different server running different software. But if kbin.social went down, or tge software kbin would somehow turn to shit, bread2390's account would keep working just fine.