I haven’t finished the video yet, but I am enjoying so far. It seems to me, the core pattern here is that an adherence to and internalization of these strict gender roles nearly always make people unhappy, and that unhappiness tends to get externalized as blame towards the opposite sex (sometimes even for upholding these gendered expectations). Ultimately, this is in-part a result of the fact that heavily gendered individuals tend to associate with and seek out romantic relationships with other heavily gendered individuals. I am reminded of this article: