Before we can have any nuanced discussions we need to agree on a fundamental principle that being a bad partner (male or female) is neither illegal nor abuse.
Some people are incompatible, some are immature, some have mental issues, etc.
The fact you felt neglected or insulted at certain times doesn’t make you a victim of anything (expect maybe your bad choices).
So, when we stop with the cancel culture where a woman is a victim because her boyfriend was mean to her one time 10 years ago and now this is reason to cancel him and ruin his life… then we can have all other discussions.