My spouse is also a mega-powerhouse in our relationship. She’s excellent and picks up chores when I ask or need healthcare. I have health issues, and she attends appointments and procedures, and does extensive post procedure caretaking. My income is the primary income, while she does environmental preservation work that she’s crazy passionate about (which does bring in an income, she’s not working for free). No kids, but two cats. Our home is always a work in progress, but there’s one or two spaces I’d consider amateur magazine worthy, the kitchen and the loft. Sex is divine and of a frequency we both prefer, which is less than the stereotypical average. We are both happy and fulfilled, aside from the expected stress that comes from American politics. Together 13 years.