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Ironfist ,
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well, women also get more attention therefor they are less lonely. Just look at dating apps: women get flooded with likes and messages, but men… good luck getting a like and if you get one, good luck getting a conversation where you are not the only one putting some effort.

Crimsonknee ,

Homie, this is quite a bad take particularly in the face of the article in question. One of the biggest things the author was talking about wasn’t quantity of relationships, but quality of relationships. Having first conversations with 50 odd men is not going to produce a quality relationship in which you can talk about significant worries in life, or work through feelings that are causing distress.

Ironfist ,
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but they dont get messages from only 50 year old men, do they? they get messages from a full spectrum of men. The only thing left to do is to choose. When you get to choose and if you know what to look for, you end up finding quality. When you dont get to choose, you either settle down or end up alone. Its offer and demand.

Crimsonknee ,

This article isn’t talking about romantic relationships. It’s talking about intimate platonic friendships and how as a man the author found those platonic relationships to be shallower than before he transitioned. This has nothing to do with online dating.

Ironfist ,
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I know and I agree with what the article says about friendships, I’m just adding that dating also contributes to the feeling of loneliness as a whole.

edit: grammar

gapbetweenus ,

If you have a close female friend, just ask her to show you some highlight of dating app messages. Seriously a good way to start doubting the intelligence of human specie as a whole.

squeakycat ,

Upvpted because I think that this and the accompanying replies are an interesting look into an outside cishet male viewpoint. Not that I agree but it provides opportunity to analyze an argument that may be common.

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