Male expression of emotions like anger ( youtu.be )

JoMiran , 10 months ago

I think the true conversation there got derailed by semantics. Clearly he feels anger but what I think he was asking was if it is healthy to always shut it down and internalize it. In my opinion, the answer to that was a resounding “no”. By not dealing with that anger, even when it’s disguised as “feeling dumb” (self-deprecation or sometimes even self-hate) or frustration, he has allowed it to fester, take up emotional real estate in his mind, and always be there waiting to bubble up or straight up burst when something seemingly unrelated triggers it.

I think Garnt was on the right emotional track originally. He intuitively knows that he has shit he should deal with rather than internalize. This is why I do not recommend taking the words of your therapy as gospel. Ultimately, if you are able to be self aware as Garnt seems to be, you will know you better. Therapy is a way to guide you towards the answers you seek or didn’t even know you were seeking. Therapy is not there to give you the answers. Maybe, hopefully, it is there to help you ask better questions.

valentinesmith OP , 10 months ago

I think that’s a really good takeaway from it.

I also clearly felt that he knew something had to be addressed and I also hope that as you mentioned he might feel more empowered to ask the right questions to himself now and be better at exploring this issue he has.

And your comment about therapy deeply resonates with me so thanks for sharing that I haven’t had it my feelings regarding it so succinctly spelled out before.