I would start out more conciliatory. You want a positive outcome, right?
Hey Jane,. I really appreciate that you're invested in my professional development. Working with you has taught me a lot. But I have my own way of processing and organizing my work. Would you mind if I did things my own way going forward?
Afterward document this conversation by sending it to yourself by email. Continue to document your repeated, polite, professional requests. If necessary, bring to your boss if the situation escalates. But it's always best to try to work things out directly with your coworkers if you can, before bringing in management. You're going to have to keep working together regardless.
That's good except "Would you mind..." should be "I'm going to do things (this way, according to the needs of the situation, by the book, ...) going forward." It's assertive instead of passive.