That’s a serious life skill. Avoiding micromanaging gives you more time, makes the other person feel more empowered, and avoids conflict in your relationship. Props!
When dealing with small groups, I ask participants for their perspective by name. The loudest doesn’t go first, and everyone gets equal-ish time. That doesn’t scale to a large forum though.
I’ve only gotten a few unsolicited comments from women about my kids. They were kind. I only got one patronizing comment, and I think that lady meant well.
The one thing I really noticed with small kids was how women stare at babies and toddlers. Not all women. Not so much that it’s creepy. But a lot.
My sons were toilet trained by their daycare, for which I am eternally grateful. But they taught my boys to pee standing up, which they probably won’t give up until they get phones.
ngl. Trying to stay connected with an angry or distraught boy is difficult.
It starts with listening. Really, truly listening to a boy means setting aside all of the worries, irritations, and urgencies we might feel in response to what he is doing or saying, and instead offering the gift of our full attention. Beyond that, we can validate our sons by accompanying them during the activities they genuinely enjoy, even if it means stretching outside of our own comfort zones. For example, both of my sons often chose to get quality time with me by doing activities that I am not so fond of—like playing video games, wrestling and roughhousing, or throwing around a lacrosse ball. But what mattered was my willingness to try, and simply to be there, just because I cared. And when my sons behaved badly, rather than threatening, scolding, or shaming them, I instead stepped in closer, sometimes firmly, to insist they tell me about whatever underlying tension was driving them off course. Even when they were being willfully uncooperative, I determined what they needed was more connection, not distance
a change-maker might … repeat and properly attribute a comment a woman made at a meeting that was ignored
Inclusivity benefits men as well as women.
I’m a soft spoken dude - my female boss stopped a meeting where I was being spoken over. It helped my status in the org because it indicated I have useful things to say, and consensus-by-volume doesn’t work.
Reddit’s product is the ad sell on their site. People visit the site because of the user generated content. If you’re interacting with other users on Reddit, you’re still contributing to the company’s income.
I’m assuming they don’t charge advertisers for blocked ads, but you never know.