The involuntary celibate community (aka ‘incels’) are often thought to be rightwing, white supremacist, and prone to violence. But how much of that is true?...
Where young women are encouraged to seek out positive role models for their own good, young men are frequently encouraged to seek out positive role models so that they treat women better.
This community sends “All lives matter” vibes. I understand that there are issues with how men are treated and there is nothing wrong with talking about it, but it does seem a little bit like a distraction from feminism issues. Women are objectively under a lot bigger threat and talking about women rights more makes a lot...
Non-masculine perspectives are incredibly important in making sure that that the lived experiences of others are present in discussions on masculinity, but please remember that this is a space to discuss issues pertaining to men and masc individuals; be kind, open-minded, and take care that you aren’t talking over men expressing their own lived experiences.
The post before this one is about protecting our sons from right-wing radicalization.
From what I’ve seen, the mod(s) have taken pains to make this not an aLl LiVe MaTtEr sub.
I wonder how much of this is rebellion. Boomers would have grown up in a world where overt sexism was acceptable. They differentiated themselves from their parents by being progressive.
Fifty years later, their grandkids are in a world where it’s much harder to get away with sexist behaviour/talk. Now the situation is reversed: kids can differentiate themselves from their parents by being sexist edgelords.
I’m not saying that accounts for all, or even most, of these regressive attitudes. But it’s probably a factor for some.
That’s a serious life skill. Avoiding micromanaging gives you more time, makes the other person feel more empowered, and avoids conflict in your relationship. Props!
Assuming that boys are socialized to be more confident, bold, and outspoken, the end result is that men will end up talking over women. In an open forum setting, such as a professional or educational one, when the floor is open to anyone, it seems like men are more likely to speak up first....
When dealing with small groups, I ask participants for their perspective by name. The loudest doesn’t go first, and everyone gets equal-ish time. That doesn’t scale to a large forum though.
I’ve only gotten a few unsolicited comments from women about my kids. They were kind. I only got one patronizing comment, and I think that lady meant well.
The one thing I really noticed with small kids was how women stare at babies and toddlers. Not all women. Not so much that it’s creepy. But a lot.
My sons were toilet trained by their daycare, for which I am eternally grateful. But they taught my boys to pee standing up, which they probably won’t give up until they get phones.
ngl. Trying to stay connected with an angry or distraught boy is difficult.
It starts with listening. Really, truly listening to a boy means setting aside all of the worries, irritations, and urgencies we might feel in response to what he is doing or saying, and instead offering the gift of our full attention. Beyond that, we can validate our sons by accompanying them during the activities they genuinely enjoy, even if it means stretching outside of our own comfort zones. For example, both of my sons often chose to get quality time with me by doing activities that I am not so fond of—like playing video games, wrestling and roughhousing, or throwing around a lacrosse ball. But what mattered was my willingness to try, and simply to be there, just because I cared. And when my sons behaved badly, rather than threatening, scolding, or shaming them, I instead stepped in closer, sometimes firmly, to insist they tell me about whatever underlying tension was driving them off course. Even when they were being willfully uncooperative, I determined what they needed was more connection, not distance
I’m thinking of putting together a posting guide to make it clearer what kind of content is appropriate here and hopefully inspire some more non-mod posting. What sort of content and which men’s issues would you like to see more of?
a change-maker might … repeat and properly attribute a comment a woman made at a meeting that was ignored
Inclusivity benefits men as well as women.
I’m a soft spoken dude - my female boss stopped a meeting where I was being spoken over. It helped my status in the org because it indicated I have useful things to say, and consensus-by-volume doesn’t work.
Reddit’s product is the ad sell on their site. People visit the site because of the user generated content. If you’re interacting with other users on Reddit, you’re still contributing to the company’s income.
I’m assuming they don’t charge advertisers for blocked ads, but you never know.
The Truth About Incels | Ash Sarkar meets William Costello ( www.youtube.com )
The involuntary celibate community (aka ‘incels’) are often thought to be rightwing, white supremacist, and prone to violence. But how much of that is true?...
Patriarchy According to The Barbie Movie ( archive.org )
I’m kind of amazed that this is getting downvotes after 20 minutes, even though the video is 33 minutes. I guess you already saw this?
xkcd #2925: Earth Formation Site ( imgs.xkcd.com )
https://xkcd.com/2925/...
Men Are Lonely. We Explore Some Reasons Why, And What Can Be Done About It ( laist.com )
Why It's So Hard for Men to Say No to Sex and Why Saying Yes to Unwanted Sex Has Consequences. ( www.psychologytoday.com )
How positive male role models are detoxifying the social media ‘manosphere’ ( www.theguardian.com )
This community might be harmful
This community sends “All lives matter” vibes. I understand that there are issues with how men are treated and there is nothing wrong with talking about it, but it does seem a little bit like a distraction from feminism issues. Women are objectively under a lot bigger threat and talking about women rights more makes a lot...
Gen Z boys and men more likely than baby boomers to believe feminism harmful, says poll ( www.theguardian.com )
I like this coat on my dog, but it makes her look like Sharon Stone from Basic Instinct ( lemmy.world )
FYI, Those are her thighs.
Should I leave my credit union over account interest rates?
TL;DR: Credit union account rates low, I moved, and even though the app and co-op network are great, not sure if I should leave....
The Gendering of Holiday Labor ( daily.jstor.org )
Discussion on moving to another instance
I’ve been kicking around the idea for a while of moving to another instance for a while for two reasons:...
Similar to the other post, what gifts are you getting other men in your life?
Not everyone has a living father/parent so I thought I’d extend it further....
Majestic ( startrek.website )
Talking Over Women
Assuming that boys are socialized to be more confident, bold, and outspoken, the end result is that men will end up talking over women. In an open forum setting, such as a professional or educational one, when the floor is open to anyone, it seems like men are more likely to speak up first....
Middle East: who backs immediate ceasefire ( lemmy.ml )
A single Father's experience with unsolicited attention ( www.fatherly.com )
Men In The US Are Peeing Incorrectly According To Urologist ( www.iflscience.com )
Gentlemen, it is with great displeasure that I must inform you that we're doing it wrong.
Here’s What I’ve Learned About Raising Boys in My 30 Years as a Child Psychologist ( www.self.com )
[META] What sort of content would you like to see here?
I’m thinking of putting together a posting guide to make it clearer what kind of content is appropriate here and hopefully inspire some more non-mod posting. What sort of content and which men’s issues would you like to see more of?
How men can become role models for gender inclusivity in the workplace ( theconversation.com )
Reddit refugee with a question
Hello all,...