Wow, that’s awful. While not tragic, that does sound like little-t traumatic. What a way to discourage opening up. I’m sorry you had to go through with that. I hope you eventually find some better friends that can more respectfully hold your emotions.
Upvpted because I think that this and the accompanying replies are an interesting look into an outside cishet male viewpoint. Not that I agree but it provides opportunity to analyze an argument that may be common.