I'm a man and so far this has happened only with other men, but I'm genuinely baffled as to why some people do this. It has happened thrice so far in 3 different work settings:...
I second this. This sounds like older men seeking validation. I'm willing to bet that they've been sold on a mythical contract: "If you do X, you will have a smooth life and get respect." Problem is, many in the public don't believe in X or think it's a problem, their families/wife probably doesn't think much of them, and they haven't had the life they thought they were entitled to. Often this crew is looking for someone to blame for the unfulfilled contract nobody ever agreed to.
I suspect they're looking for validation ("Tell me I'm right and good."), and you're agreement that the people they think cheated them indeed did that and are bad/cheaters.
Old White Guys really got sold on this, "get a job, work hard, and your wife will lust after you," false contract. That's why they can be so hateful. It's either find someone who stole their reward from them, or acknowledge they believed a lie.
EDIT: I don't think you should be validating them. I believe they're wrong, and this mentality is a problem. Life is full of adversity. Success is not facing no adversity, it's facing it well. Also, you're not owed anything from other people. The only solution is to focus on being excellent, believe in yourself, and choose to move on from the people and things that don't bring you life. You can only control yourself.
Sure. I’m just not a German speaker, but if I parse the components out, meyer translates to major (?) and English gets both ‘hag’ and ‘hex’ for ‘witch’ from German.
I don't really know how to deal with coworkers who emotionally dump their issues on me
I'm a man and so far this has happened only with other men, but I'm genuinely baffled as to why some people do this. It has happened thrice so far in 3 different work settings:...