I found one of these guys on soil survey in Ontario. At first I thought it was a bottle filled with mud. He had this massive slug or something stuck to his shell. I was SOO pumped to find one
I fail to see how we are responsible for the emotional well being of our management. Did I do my job? Yep! Did I do it well? Yep! Stand and deliver thy raise O manager, or face the wrath of my competing job offer.
No, my point is to stop being an asshole, we need to want to change, and the way we do that is through self-reflection and identifying where we need to change.
If our vision of who we want to be and who we actually are don’t align we need to start self improvement and punching items off the list we’ve created.
When you start your conversation with “you’re the problem”, you’re going to alienate the group you’re attempting to reach out to.
Valid. However, my vitriol stems primarily from having been a shit sack at one point. It’s painful to see many guys suffer through the same thing. Most of which, may not be as lucky as I was and actually clue in and want to change, or will struggle to change but be unable to due to lack of support or guidance.
Men have real problems that deserve to be noticed and recognized, and not all of them are a result of patriarchal culture
Again, on the nose, and while we must acknowledge and validate these issues, we absolutely must not let ourselves wallow or let these issues limit or define us.
At the risk of oversimplifying, I don’t think men need to read feminist literature. Nothing wrong if you do, but I think men in general need to stop smelling their own farts and take a long, hard, and uncomfortable look in the mirror.
Figure out who exactly it is you want to be. What traits does this version of yourself have? Chances are, ‘intolerant shit sack’ aren’t the words we want to describe ourselves with. Then we start to ask if we are said shit sack, and if so, how do we stop from being one.
The point I am trying to make is that we far too often focus on small things, and lose sight of the big picture.
Most certainly. They are exploiting issues in masculinity that have been here for decades.
One of the ones they like to use is the ‘strong man’ and a callback to our forefathers (eg., miners from the 1800s. Typical ‘manly’ men). There is nothing wrong with being strong, determined, or ambitious, provided you’re a decent human being beforehand. These grifters, though seem like it’s the only thing that validates a guy, and that we must achieve it no matter the cost. If we don’t, we are failures and must find someone or something to blame