I'm coming around to agreeing with you. But I feel like if I try to clarify and really understand I may end up offending someone. It's hard to have these kinds of conversations online, with people who don't know you or your intent.
I may be an imperfect ally, but I'm honestly trying.
The issue was the use of a specific word, that is now uncouth, but with which OP identifies. They claim to not know the word had fallen out of favor. Other than the word itself, I don’t think there was anything wrong with the comment they left.