Are they not unionized? If this problem is caused by unreasonably long hours doing unreasonably hard work with no paid vacation, as the article suggests, all of the "trying to solve this" bullshit coming out of employers' PR departments isn't going to do anything near as much as shorter hours, paid time off, more staff, longer project timelines, and job protections.
As a general rule I’d suggest always discussing this with your manager first
This is the absolute worst possible advice. You're letting all your coworkers know that you're going to be adversarial about even the tiniest personal conflict, and that you can't be trusted to resolve interpersonal issues like an adult.
I would start out more conciliatory. You want a positive outcome, right?
Hey Jane,. I really appreciate that you're invested in my professional development. Working with you has taught me a lot. But I have my own way of processing and organizing my work. Would you mind if I did things my own way going forward?
Afterward document this conversation by sending it to yourself by email. Continue to document your repeated, polite, professional requests. If necessary, bring to your boss if the situation escalates. But it's always best to try to work things out directly with your coworkers if you can, before bringing in management. You're going to have to keep working together regardless.
The yimby argument has always seemed flimsy. Its strange logic is that speculative developers would build homes in order to devalue them: that they would somehow act against their own interests by producing enough surplus homes to bring down the average price of land and housing. That would be surprisingly philanthropic behaviour.
Speaking to your coworker directly is the first step. It’s called being an adult. It also makes it clear to the other person that you aren’t playing their games when you confront them directly. Of course, you also need to be clear that you hope to resolve things amicably. Then if that doesn’t make any difference, you go to management. Whether he’s wasting time isn’t your problem. Ignore it. But animosity toward you is your problem, and you’re the one solving it either way, whether directly or by going to management.