It’s funny that no matter what happens, the answer ends up that the man is in the wrong and the one who needs to change or do something.
What happens when the men changing their individual or collective behavior does fuck all to address the problem, or even that they all wake up and realize the system was designed this way with women never being held responsible for changing so that men can continue to be controlled at will?
Feminism is absolutely cancer. It, as an ideology, is as toxic and cancerous to gender relations as the KKK is to race relations, and we know this because feminists adlib the same bigoted arguments that racists and Nazis and KKK members use and have historically used.
As an example of them doing exactly this: gendering of domestic violence data collection to minimize male victims, hide female perpetrators, and throw any attempts at including males back in those males’ faces with fallacious and insanely sexist takes like “who is causing the violence” (which they also only say after hiding the female perpetrators)
Edit: this is called Gamma bias, btw, and is one of many examples of feminists using KKK tactics against men. For those who would like to see feminists version of Mein Kampf, it’s called the S.C.U.M. Manifesto and has been cited as a “seminal feminist work” by feminists in politics who are creating this sexist DV legislation
Your highlighting the sexism, while calling it a good thing
The point of venting is not to hedge and hem and haw about making sure you are taking personal responsibility for your own problems
And it’s something women are never expected to do when being vulnerable, but men are
That’s exactly the sexist problem
When women are vulnerable with each other, they offer support so that the venter understands at a root physiological level that they aren’t alone and that even if they can solve the problem themselves, they don’t necessarily have to.
You are suggesting men keep doing the exact opposite from fucking get go.
Men (especially according to you) have to preface their expressions of vulnerability with “this is my problem, not yours, this does not burden you in any way, I promise” and then they might get a sympathetic ear.
You’re proudly exemplifying the exact sexist problem.
So of course it will be received better, you’ve removed all the effort of being someone’s support before you started, what is there for her to complain about in your vulnerability, you were never vulnerable in the first place!
and like all feminists, after boldly spewing out bullshit you pat yourself on the back and walk off, smug in your "fixing" of a perceived wrong, and certainly not staying around to have it be challenged.
Getting frustrated and blunt with having to keep pointing out the blatant sexism, bigotry, and hatred in a gender supremacy group is very different from an "i'm right all the time fuck you" attitude.
Even if they look the same to the average feminist, @Dienervent's response didn't surprise me at all.
I don't anyone finds that style of weakness attractive, but I'm finding it very hard to break out from providing a list of complaints and instead processing how they make me feel.
...isn't that how everyone starts out trying to share frustrations? This sounds like the exact "if men do it then it's bad" problem we're talking about
oh, you should look into the history of how feminism banned it in the USA... and then left boys out.
Mindblowing how they can sit there and scream about how oppressed they are to people who have been systematically, sexistly, sexually mutilated as children in order to make them easier to use tools for the person screaming.
