Is it really a widespread thing for people to get in trouble for not doing this? I’ve never answered an email or phone call while off work or on vacation and not once has anyone brought it up. The only people I see doing this are the people that do it of their own free will.
I used to get in trouble for missing calls and texts out of hours because they expected it. They expected it because I usually answered. I stopped and got in trouble a few times. Then they started calling someone else.
Is it really a widespread thing for people to get in trouble for not doing this
Yeah it is. Remember the whole “quiet quitting” bullshit panic? That was about people doing this and bosses (plus the pro-corporate billionaire-owned mainstream media) pretending that it was the death knell of businesses.
I’ve never answered an email or phone call while off work or on vacation and not once has anyone brought it up
Good. That’s exactly how it should be. If they’re not paying you for it, you’re not on call. That should be a given.
The only people I see doing this are the people that do it of their own free will
Unfortunately, that’s far from true. Lack of regulations. An obscene power imbalance stemming mainly from lack of unionization. A business culture that heavily encourages ruthless exploitation.
These conditions combine to make many if not most bosses abuse their workers in any and every way not specifically illegal and oftentimes even THAT doesn’t stop them.
This was incredibly eye opening. For the tl;dw, most dollar stores employ less than a skeleton crew, often 1 person for the entire store. That person gets minimum wage. The stores are therefore so badly operated that they become infested with rodents and targets for robberies.
The executives have mentioned to investors they don’t make money off selling products, they make money by spending almost nothing on labour costs. They explain they can get away with it because their stores operate in the poorest neighbourhoods.
It’s some of the most evil corporate speak I’ve ever heard and I watched the one where a chocolate company exec explained child slaves actually like working on cocoa farms.
Absolutely. Every time there’s a “men’s only” activity, other groups are quick to call out sexual discrimination.
There are some good things men can pick up from the queer community. They, of all people, play with what defines masculinity all the time. Queer women who want to be more masculine, trans men wanting to be identified as men, etc. They use aspects of masculinity to define themselves.
The thing with cis men is that for the longest time, masculinity has been defined through agressivity, violence, repression of emotions and domination. These are aspects that need to be removed in order to redefine masculinity.
Also, recently, men have been criticised and even mocked for various aspects of masculinity. Like the desire to be strong, liking certain things like sports or cars and trucks or action movies or horses or whatever, to dress a certain way, or just wanting to do general boy stuff.
But the one that hurts the most is how everyone is blaming everything the last bit negative on all men. Or pinning only a handful of men’s behavior on every man, ever. And basically saying that all men are inherently toxic and deserve to be eliminated. And as soon as someone speaks up and says “not all men” there always someone who’ll reply mockingly “nOt AlL mEN”, like it’s an invalid response to so much hatred and misandry.
Yes, a lot of men are toxic and patriarchy has hurt society in many ways. It also hurts men as well. But we have to differentiate between the good and the bad ones. I mean, women aren’t all angels either. And there are many other queer folk who aren’t nice and they probably have their own toxic traits. Basically everyone has their faults and some of the responsibility of the bad stuff should be shared.
At a time when masculinity is being re-examined, it seems America has never been more divided on the definition of ‘real masculinity.’ I’ve found clarity in two places we seem to be looking last.
This month will have been eight years since I arrived at the same college where I now teach. Like some of my queer students, I was freshly out of the closet, away from the suburbs of Long Island and living in downtown Manhattan for the first time.
I say now that I arrived late on the gay scene. For years I had been dancing around the edges of the queer community in Manhattan.
I was out of the closet, but in many ways, my head was still enveloped in “straight logic.” I held onto the misconception that other gay men were either the object of my desire or, in the case of a girlfriend’s other gay best friend, naturally, my competition. There was no middle ground. Many of the gay men at my college, I quickly realized, had learned a similar strategy. It seemed many of us were in the business of projecting our insecurities onto one another. Whether or not we were conscious of it, we were competing in a typical “mean girls” fashion.
It wouldn’t be until years later that I would meet my now boyfriend, Carlos, who would inspire me to question my own notions of what it is to be a part of the queer community.
At a time when masculinity is being re-examined, it seems America has never been more divided on the definition of “real masculinity” – a definition I’ve grappled with myself. I’ve found clarity in two places we seem to be looking last: the next generation and the queer men who blazed their trail.
Starbucks gave trans employees lifeline. Then they put our health care at risk.
Gen Z is setting their own rules for ‘real masculinity’ At the end of last semester, I asked my freshman critical writing class at Pace University in Manhattan whether they believed that our culture was witnessing a “crisis of masculinity.”
Most argued that men were not in crisis, citing the economic and socioeconomic privileges that come with being a white man. They defended their case by citing how other groups, like people of color and LGBTQ+ communities, have seen their rights taken away in real time.
“I think those are the people really in crisis," one of my students lamented after citing the recent passing of anti-drag, anti-trans legislation.
But what we’re seeing from the behavior of straight men doesn’t exactly tell us they are thriving, either. From elementary education to overdose rates, men are seemingly in trouble:
Girls outperform boys in reading by more than 40% of a grade level in every state. Men die of overdoses at two to three times greater a rate than women. In the United States, males make up about 80% of all deaths by suicide – and are far less likely to be willing to talk about mental health. The list goes on.
And look at the examples of Andrew Tate (the social media influencer arrested in December on charges of human trafficking and rape), Kanye West, Elon Musk, Donald Trump and Vladimir Putin. All of them are in a wrestling match with their egos – and undoubtedly working out their daddy issues by taking it out on the rest of humanity.
“I think straight men are mad that masculinity is being remodeled,” a student answered.
Getting sober saved my life. And helped me understand my identity as a transgender woman.
The ‘crisis of masculinity’ is men’s own misery
Of course, this brand of the eccentric man predates the biblical age, I told them. What we’re seeing today is that it is more widely mainstream than ever, citing artists like Harry Styles and Shawn Mendes who have, in a sense, cultivated this new wave of masculinity-sans-stereotypes. But it isn’t new.
From Mercury, Bowie, Prince and Elton to the ball culture of the 1980s, our definitions and expressions of gender have ebbed and flowed.
So why now, then, is the backlash seemingly so much stronger? Why are so many men stuck in their own misery?
“It’s community,” a students said toward the end of class one day. “That’s the thing straight men are really missing.”
I know that’s certainly the thing I was missing before I began to accept myself.
What straight men could learn from queer men – aside from a host of stylistic, hygienic and sex tips – is to have a greater zeal and lust for life. What we’re seeing from the misery of men is the product of patriarchal conditioning. While we know straight white men are the beneficiaries of our capitalist patriarchy, they are also unknowingly victims of it.
My students understand this. I’d like to believe the young men who step into my classroom have seen the mistakes the men before them have made.
I often get asked by friends older than me if I’m pessimistic about Generation Z, born between 1997 to 2012. They often forget that I am actually considered Gen Z. I tell them how teaching has made me more optimistic than ever.
My students have made me see the state of things with a bit more hope. For all their (our) stereotypical faults – including a general lack of stamina and an impulse to cancel too quickly – the next generation is throwing out the old script and writing a new one. For that, they have my respect.
They have changed my view on this crisis of masculinity. This violent pushback we’re witnessing from men is a mere projection of their own self-hatred. The outburst we see from men is but a symptom of their grief. They are slowly realizing they are on their way out.
The problem is that the article doesn’t really have anything to say beyond the title of this post. Just a whole lot of padding and rambling to make an entire article out of a two line idea. It doesn’t go into anything resembling what the premise would look like in the real world, nor does it build up reasoning for it beyond just “some people thought of this”.
In my lifetime, Jewish voices have always been at the forefront of anti-genocide, anti-apartheid, and anti-ethnic cleansing campaigns throughout the world and continue to be. Assuming that all Jewish people support and are involved with an ethnic cleansing is horrendously anti-semetic and must be opposed. Where the article points out this behavior from leftists who don’t understand their own side, it has to be opposed.
This article also airdrops this in there as an example:
“Israel is not a ‘colonial’ state and Israelis aren’t ‘settlers.’ You cannot colonize the land your ancestors are from,” Blotner wrote.
Unlike what the secular state of Israel proclaims at every opportunity, Israel does not represent all Jewish people or Judaism. Indegeneity is not relevant to colonialism. The process of colonization is relevant to colonialism. Importantly, all Jewish people throughout the world including in the state of Israel do not support the behavior of Netanyahu’s government. It is not a necessary tenent of the religion or the identity to settle the the West Bank, the Gaza Strip, and the Golan Heights regardless of what opportunistic politicians say. Conflating critisizing a far-right state abusing religious rhetoric that is even considered heretical by many Jewish tradtions is not the same as assuming all Jewish people by religion or ethnicity are “the other” in every nefarious form that can take.
On the colonial state part. My interpretation of the statement was support for their right to exist, not the support for taking more Palestinian land or the method they used to do so by emigrating residents into their population.
But honestly either way, I think there are so many shit opinions, and so many biases from so many different sources, and so much misinformation, it’s justified to give people a bit of slack on the subject regardless. Kicking someone out of a support group for a post like that is cruel.
It’s disheartening to hear. Typically the Anti Defamation League draws attention to rising antisemitic behavior whenever there is a tension abroad but often does so to divert attention from the issue abroad.
To be clear, any kind of hostility/prejudice/discrimination to any group is wrong. Supporting one group shouldn’t negate from the other. As someone who identifies with neither group I can see why one or another would resort to name calling — it gets us nowhere. But to shut down discussions because people are frustrated is also wrong.
And then there are people to use these events as an excuse to get away with bad behavior.
The ADL was barely covered in the article. It was mostly anecdotes of jewish college students being or feeling attacked for outwardly expressing identity. I don’t think you meant it this way, but leading by questioning the ADL’s behavior seems to miss the point.
Before reading the article, their comment definitely made it sound like ADL was making these claims. Though I definitely understand criticizing the reference to ADL.
Yeah we had this in the UK for a time when minimum wage was introduced. Up until about 2008-2009 when it was finally changed so that employees had to have minimum wage regardless of tips the hospitality industry didn't collapse despite the noise made in the right wing press.
However we now have issues with employers stealing tips from employees via various dodgy practices. The law is likely to change again here to protect tips too.
Chicago are making a step in the right direction but employees will still lose out of tips aren't protected too
This is true, in Illinois. However, restaurants can do whatever they like with “service charges”, though customarily those go to the service staff. Automatic gratuity is already illegal in Illinois, or at least illegal to enforce, so a lot of restaurants already apply a service charge on large parties… easy enough, and perfectly legal, to expand that and claim it as revenue.
And that’s just the legal route. Wage theft is rampant in this industry, at least in Chicago.
Source: Am current server in Chicago for over decade.
Washington State changed the minimum wage years ago and mandated it to include tipped workers. It didn't really change the tipping, but the tips still went to the staff, so at least the workers got a more livable income out of the deal.
Tips will be mostly irrelevant once patrons are not shamed and manipulated into paying tips. If the salaries are already paid, most people will not tip.
Tips finally got to a breaking point in the US and they’re on the way out for good.
The title led me to imagine warships that sank during some sort of bizarre battle with Germans who somehow made it to Texas, but the article clarifies that these are unarmed cargo ships that were deliberately abandoned after the war ended.
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